If you don't "feel the love", perhaps you are talking to the wrong people

Something decidedly queer about calling Germaine Greer a seer ( "Celebrated  Australian ..."  she was advertised as on ABCqanda last night) . Seems to me the queen of sneer might have  new veneer, but hasn't changed spots !
She hasn't repented of leading a whole generation of baby boomers ( BB and their  kids)  away from their own parents roots . BB,  if they are lucky, only ever grow up by recognising  they benefited substantially from the training they received from their own stale and "upright upholding"parents. ABC may think it is providing answers but if we never confess our errors , the game is still one from kindergarten and about as deep as a birdbath.

 Its not done to say that . " we've failed ". BB are not on trial here-- we've designed qanda to focus on others faults - not our own (Especially when the reality of BB own children's loose moorings are now obvious to them)    Hence we have the silly spectre on qanda of venerating someone who spoke like a child,  acted like a child and still provides no sense of a way back . She and the ABC presenter ducked questions on daughters. Truly a tragic day for the ABC where noone dares talk about the elephant in the room . Answers ( the A in qanda) are meant to elict truth - but there is no way qanda will do that on some subjects .
The 35% of our daughters who are bringing up children on their own - 2009.
What are we going to do with all the Aussie girls who are liberated , but are not free  Its only a clever country if we acknowledge error - judgement day is just prolonged if we ignore our mistakes - Greer will join Mead in that intellectually imbecilic class   of thought to be "intellectual "Aussies whose role , it seems now,  was to reinforce a  popular prejudice.  They don't really have minds of their own - they are not allowed to .
Jones typically pretends to be " answering questions " but just dances around the blocked ends ones . He just ignores the opportunity  and allows the time to be wasted  "talking ourselves silly about Julia" )  ;The hypocrisy of calling qanda informative rather than entertainment is obvious.  The opportunity to listen to Melinda TR  and a few others on a subject that really matters was lost -pure tokenism and weaving .
Tokenism best describes Tony's commitment to answering questions.

10 things you should know by 25

Hope this is helpful to some young person we know http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/whole-life/features/25956-11-things-to-know-at-25ish

Didn't ya just luv the learners permit

Re Royal wedding  Kate and William  ( The car was a Blue  Aston Marton  but this is just as good)  

The clear rules of marriage and life are there get us back on track .We all stuff up . We don't change the rules to make allowances for oursleves, we change ourselves or seek help to change ourselves . We are all learning  to be tougher and stronger and more aware of why its good , and not only good but great,  to be so . Have you seen the Kings speech? .  

Feeling good about yourself

One pretty sure way to feel better about ourselves is to dress up . We often need to feel better about ourselves, so dressing up can help - but it can also hide things that need to be dealt with first . Like what's happening on the inside . Dressing up can hide things that need exposing . One of the best parts of old age is you can't kid yourself about  the contrast between real beauty and superficial beauty on your own body ( I can talk , even though i am quite young really )  .   
We don't easily admit that we need to feel better on the inside to ourselves. That feeling of guilt or inadequacy is often more obvious to others than it is to ourselves -good to have friends or parents to tell you you are fulla......... Honest friends   see it  in us when we " hang it on others" and what "they "are doing wrong - psychologists called it "projection" the good book calls it guilt ( putting your own blame game on them - like Adam  and Eve ). 
We see it in others when they are unhappy when the occasion calls for celebration;  when they gossip or  feel like they are losing it  in the competition stakes ( all of which is uneccesary if you believe you are made and just as important as anyone else- which you are ); when they have done something they regret and haven't confessed it .  Competition ( individual position ) is not the whole of life,  just a part of the bigger picture ( team ) We all have a part to play - just have to find it! 


Every single one of us needs to feel better about ourselves and we all have something to confess ( if we think about it enough) . And because we all suffer the same need we don't always help each other here - stealing the honor or beauty or trying to .The key thing  is we all need to shower everyday ( sometimes many times  a day) 
I loved the way the royal wedding put the clothes issue into perspective . She wore white - not so much a symbol of purity ( which can threaten us ) but a symbol of cleansing. That's where beauty is - its on the inside and we need to strive for that first . Best thing is that while millions missed it ( because they were concentrating on what people were wearing ) several  billions saw just HOW you can find hope and joy - in the prospect of forgiveness - being made clean ( but as both Jewish and Christian traditions show so clearly in their essential traditions when they meet together) - but it must start with accepting it for yourself. 

Some great quotes to help you ignore the noise around you

Reputation is what men and women think of us: Character is what God and Angels know of us-Thomas Paine

Try not to become a man of success, but a man of value-Albert Einstein

Insist on yourself..Never imitate.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant-Louis Stevenson

Teenage girls need support not cynicsm

David Koch and Michael Carr Gregg can be such wooses .( Sunrise today )  As men and fathers they wouldn't let there own daughters wander around in the mists of ' do what you feel like ' before they find their prince. The easiest way to laugh off at a idea that threatens us  ( self control is a good idea ) is to show some extreme American group doing something a bit extreme ( they do that)  . Sunrise should ask local churches,  mosques and schools about their programs with the same idea  . I am off listening to SEVEN and disgusted with these 2 weak men .Such a soft touch selling spree so often
If these woosy men  talked from their top heads they would be analysing facebook slanging and recognising how deeply cruel and hypocritical men can be on the subject of sexual purity . Slagging over lack of sexual control is rife  and you ignore that . Are You 2 just selling our daughters  a self control quickfix drug allowing them easy access-- into bed they go again ? .
Girls must stand  and fight for the right to be strong - resist the cynicsm and the technique driven drug culture that says you have more fun by throwing over self control . What do you get for it ? who wants their daughter to develop a reputation ?
Carr Gregg claims resisting temptation doesn't work . "Don't do something because the crowd won't support you" - and YET he dares lectures us about resisting peer group pressure! 1 wonder whatever happened to good olde parent and teacher group pressure? 
Since when did the majority determine the level of happiness , or sound ways to live ? Is clinical study worthless? I wonder if MCG studied the attitudes of those who are still with their princes and princesses ( no theres a study!) . I wonder how many divorces occur because mum and dad disagree about what the other partner , was or wasn't doing to sell self control to their daughters ( sum honesty here  boys! - no reinforcement of adult men in MCG's one sided analysis )
 I don't need the survey to tell me what's happening . Look how many parents want to send their girls to private schools and all the girls happy to go there - study that you selective bookmarkers. There is more to resisting state school degradation than new plaster , paint and wallpaper.

Hypocrisy is not to strong a word for some men who claim to lead , but haven't got the courage to make girls feel even more guilty by telling them the truth they already know . Tough parenting is that - really tough . The clinicians need to study catharsis -because its coming

When someone threatens me - is it wrong ?

Depends on whether you are sitting in the chair or not. , Unfortunately in the blinkered eyes of many bureau brats and post modern reactionaries it is considered by them to be wrong just like they think its wrong of God to get angry ". Unfortunately children get to know the law before they understand  that it is only ever right if it does right - otherwise like most laws its a ass - an unmoving piece of predjudice and stupid millstone stuff
A young child asked this question on ANSWERS - yahoo,  when his mother threatened to not feed him unless he picked up his clothes.
 Is it illegal for a mother to not feed a child?  .
My answer :  Yes , you could send her to jail . You have all that power,WOW so choose well . 
She loves you no doubt because she would happily go to jail if you would only listen and do what she asked you first time long time ago ( remember she asked you .....times before she became wrathful ). - Look TOO at what she is prepared to do to train you before she dies to live reasonably with someone else . She loves you and love threatens mate because if you don't listen - you'll live alone. Not easy though is it to be told what to do - 
Forget being the legal eagle   or you'll spend your life talking about how everyone else but you is breaking  the law all the time.  
Don't worry-- hard work is good for you ( gets easier the more you practice) because it teaches you what is really good ( honoring your parents ) and conversely ( what bullsh talk is all about - you don't get this reality therapy on TV ) --AND not best of all but with some inspiration for you -it will all be over by the time your 18.   
By that time hopefully you will have learned that she's RIGHT and you are WRONG .